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Tara Connor's avatar

This was such a good read for me today. It's funny, I was thinking back just this morning to the conversations I had with many of my daughter's teachers at the beginning of each new year. They were usually about "behaviors" that actually turned out to be personality traits. (Have you ever heard somebody call a boy "bossy"?) I would try to explain that we encouraged both our children to speak up for themselves and for others. To share their ideas and be proud of their accomplishments. I usually wrapped up with something like: I have taught my children to have opinions. And I have taught them how to be kind. Everybody makes mistakes, which is why I have also taught them how to apologize. But I will not apologize to you for my daughter being something other than what you expected her to be.

Girls are held to a different standard than boys. They are meant to speak more softly, take up less space, be helpful team players, put others first. Downplaying our gifts plays into this.

I think we can all practice humility in the presence of great goodness, whatever that looks like to you, and be mindful of the debt we owe to those who've gone before. We would all do well to look carefully for the hidden strengths in those around us and raise them up whenever we can. But women being humble about their own achievements? No, that serves no one.

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Loretta's avatar

I fucking LOVE discovering women who are not afraid to roar ❤️ This post made me smile ear to ear

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